Soap-box

After reading L’s post about her arch-nemesis, her step-kids mom, I feel like I must respond. Please know that not all of us moms are like this!! Ms. Money-hungry gives us all a bad name. I swear we aren’t all like that. I wish that E’s dad was as committed to her as T is to his two kids. This mom should just be thrilled that she gets support from him, both emotionally and monetarily. Every time I talk to R I have to remind him that he needs to pay child-support. And I can’t remember how many times we’ve been to court over it!
To be fair, he’s really not a bad dad. I honestly think he does the best he can with what he has. It isn’t his fault that he was born with such a tiny brain. I’m sure it’s hard to remember to do things like pay your child support and pick your kid up from school on time when your brain is only about the size of an ostrich’s.
But I digress. To all the shrew ex-wives out there, I just want to say, STOP! You are destroying your children emotionally! They will hate you for putting them in the middle of your fight. Be glad that you have an ex who cares about the kids. Be glad that you have a person who you can rely on to pick the kids up from school, and help with homework. Be grateful that you have an ex who attends sports, or choir practice or dance recitals. Because there are too many of us out here who would kill to be in your shoes. Your anger and spitefulness will burn a hole in your kid’s sense of self-worth. They are your most valuable asset, not the size of the child support check you receive. Remember that, or you will regret it when they are older and can see you from a distance.
Whew, okay, I'm going to step off my soap-box now. Peace.