GRRR! Bad Mood

Do you ever wonder why it is that women can’t just be in a bad mood? Why is it that whenever I am in a crappy mood, it has to be PMS? Why can’t I just have a bad day? Maybe I just didn’t get enough sleep. Maybe I didn’t get my full coffee dose this morning. Why can’t I just be. in. a. bad. mood? GRRRR!!!! And the person who asked me if it was PMS, was another woman!
I mean come on, isn’t bad enough that we have to deal with that type of attitude from men, now we’re doing it to each other? WTF?
Men are allowed to have bad days. And we women folk are supposed to give them their space, and basically let them walk all over us while they’re pissing and moaning. Oh sure, this isn’t said out loud, but it sure as shit is implied. I don’t care what the spin doctors say about women and men having reached equality. That is a great big pile of horse shit, and anyone who bends down close enough can smell it.
We still place all sorts of socially imposed gender roles on ourselves and each other; we even do it to our kids. I know that I have been guilty of this with my own daughter, despite being a raging feminist. It’s hard to escape the norms of society, even when you know that those norms are misplaced.
For example, even though I was raised in an era where women can be pretty much any damned thing they want to, I still deeply crave the traditional female roles of wife and mother. I want the little yellow house with the white picket fence and 2 kids and a dog running in the yard. I wonder what it would be like to be able to stay home and have my only job be to take care of my family. I imagine that it would be just as hard as what I do now. But I also know that I will never be Donna Reed. It just isn’t in the cards for me.
I envy those women who do stay at home and make their families their full-time jobs. To me, that would be a luxury, something that would require that I have a husband who could support us on his salary alone.
When did that switch happen? When did it become that only the wealthiest folks could afford to have only one partner working? Surely throughout history it has been the poorest folks who had to have both parents earning income to make ends meet. Why is it that our society acts as if this is some new phenomenon, and makes the working parents feel so guilty about having to work? Why is it that the ultra right accuses working moms/dads of being bad moms/dads, but doesn’t support a welfare program that would allow them to stay at home, or at least work part-time? Wow, I have really gone off on my soap box haven’t I? I just get so pissed off at our society some days. Shit, today, a little fluffy critter could probably piss me off.
And for the record, no it isn’t PMS. I didn’t sleep well last night, I have a ton of crap to do at work, my office is a mess, and the weather is kinda stinky and if it stays yucky, I won’t be able to go to Waterfront Wednesday and see Old Crow Medicine Show, which I really want to do, even though it means missing knitting tonight.
And if I want to have a bitch fest about that I can. (sticks out tongue and makes pouty face)